“When they were little girls, they decided that they would be best friends forever. A whale never forgets a promise.” -Anneliese Juergensen
i have now died. of joy.
I don’t think I’ve seen art of an old mermaid (mermatron? mergranny?) before.
I love it!
Oh look it’s the most amazing thing I’ve ever seen
Gay Pride is ok but have you ever experienced Gay Lust? Gay Wrath? How about Gay Sloth? I love sleep gaying
I may have a Gay Wrath kink. (Tearing up heteronormative magazines, ruining cishet weddings, etc)
You’re just jealous
The seven deadly gay sins. This needs to be a thing that crashes every Pride celebration (or at least PDX’s).
If you know any “angry” trans women or “unpleasant” trans women… I am them. If there’s a “bad one” anywhere, I am not a good one. I come with the collective story of trans people assigned male at birth. If you diss it you diss me.
I have rarely seen cis people…
The following facts are supported by every major health organization in the US, as well as the world health organization, based on multidisciplinary scientific efforts over the last 60 years.
They are not points of debate. They are facts. If one starts from a position other than these points, you…
Jared Leto receives an Oscar for portraying a trans woman while trans women receive shame and violence for being trans women.
- Jared Leto’s performance was amazing
- Give me one reason why it wasn’t
- Or why he didn’t deserve that award
- That isn’t “oh he’s cis”
how about that his performance wasn’t “amazing” and that his character just perpetuated the “trans characters as tragedy porn”…
I’m not an artist, but I have more than a few friends who are, so I thought this might be a good thing to post.
Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore, “Sweatshop-Produced Rainbow Flags and Participatory Patriarchy: Why the Gay Rights Movement Is a Sham”
I wish I could reproduce the entire article here it’s a very important read, especially for SF queers.(via projectqueer)
that little thing yesterday with an (apparently) white trans woman saying that it is unnecessary and unreasonable to assert that ‘trans women are the most beautiful’ and that is harmful to assert that ‘trans women are more beautiful than cis women’ still has me somewhat irritated today.
no joke, i think my earliest experience with seeing a trans woman in the media is ace ventura. wherein he vomits and all sorts of other stuff after kissing this woman, who was played by a cis woman.
if you look at the picture, she isn’t an ugly woman. at all. not even with 90s hair.
but the thing is, is that i do understand that a lot of people (trans women included) don’t quite understand just why this absolute disgust that mainstream media (and actual human beings) continuously express towards the bodies of trans women is a significant problem.
the politics of desirability are convoluted and tough (and super fucking emoitional for a lot of people — and for good reason). we can look at something like the okcupid analysis of who gets responses… we can see that most undesirable (within this analysis) are Black women and Asian men.
Okay. This reality is also evident in popular media as well as the experiences of the individuals who belong to either category.
I know that some do talk about the undesirability of trans women… but i really think that this misses the mark. the problem isn’t that we are undiserable, but that we are disgusting (while, yes, also being hypersexualized). and, as with all things, this compounds when you start talking about twoc — particularly as applies to the intersection of Blackness and trans womanhood.
i don’t think i’ve seen many people explore this disgust and the moral/ethical/social implications of it.
These studies suggest that there is a tight relationship between our sense of moral purity and the emotion of disgust. Violations of our sense of moral purity lead us to feel the emotion of disgust. When we experience the emotion of disgust, we also change our judgments of the moral purity of others.
The disgust that a transmisogynist society imbues into the bodies of twoc is closely connected to why/how we experience so much violence. Why we are such targets of violent rhetoric and why 99% of the people who oppress us cannot be reasoned with.
Because you can’t reason with a feeling of disgust. Even if you manage to successfully address the moral judgements that result from this disgust, it is nearly impossible to actively (via words) change a person’s feeling of disgust they have for our bodies.
Like. Disgust is why so much about the oppression of twoc appears so extreme and amplified. Because this disgust literally causes negative opinions/thoughts/moral judgements to be compounded and more harsh than they might otherwise be.
And this is why combating this notion of the disgusting hideousness of twoc bodies is critical for improving our lives. no, it won’t (on its own) dismantle transmisogyny and free us from it. but it will — immediately and right away — have a massive positive impact on our overall safety and wellbeing.
Because maybe if we reduce/eliminate the disgust for our bodies, the next time someone discovers our ‘trap’ maybe it won’t result in a murderous rage. maybe if we get rid of disgust, we’ll finally be able to move beyond the fucking bathroom debate.1
the issue of trans women and beauty isn’t just about desirability (even though it def. factors). it is about this connection between disgust and moral judgement. it is about the connection between disgust and the violence twoc experience.
saying ‘trans women are the most beautiful’ is uncomfy for a lot of people because we are disgusting. it is like saying maggots are cute. like dog shit looks delicious.2
so. yeah. i’ll fucking defend the beauty of twoc for as long as i have breath in my lungs because it fucking matters. and, tbh, i don’t give a fuck what anyone has to say about ‘competition’ ‘reinforcing normative beauty standards’ or whatever the fuck. because those critiques miss the point by a kilometre.
because when we are talking about bodies so disgusting they make people puke, we aren’t talking about beauty. not talking about aesthetics. not talking about attraction. or desirability. not talking about sexualization (or desexualization).
we’re talking about disgust. and how this obliges cis ppl to do what they can to eliminate us so that they no longer have to be exposed to our disgusting, horrible bodies.
This. omg. especially this. why do you think the rhetoric around trans women in washrooms is so violent? it isn’t because most ppl want to protect cis women or even necessarily actually think that all trans women are predators, but their transmisogyny + disgust escalates their feelings omf discomfort into this hyperbolic worrying about this. it is the disgust that allows people to think that it is reasonable to assume that all trans women are predators. it is disgust that takes us from being just one more kind of woman to oppress into literally being fucking monsters.↩
i’m well aware of how awful these comparisons are. but that is, unfortunately, exactly my fucking point. and the fact that some ppl might think maggots are cute and dog shit delicious doesn’t mean anything. b/c like chasers, we’d consider a desire for dogshit and maggots to be devient and a sign of SOMETHING WRONG. ↩
Just going to point out that part of the reason for the hypersexualization is the disgust, since that acts as a further signal of risk and so heightens the exotic becoming erotic nature of the the social exchange, while also providing the safety of plausible deniability essential to such activities as one moves through different social spheres.
Shaena Brandel, Tabu 2008